The more you obsess over him, the worse you’ll feel. Many of us are too quick to ignore our emotional imbalance, declare ourselves fine, and fight to move on. I was so use to him being my side always, I did not like it. Isn’t the alternative scarier? When we try, we push them away even further. Lately before he left we were having some issues he would always accuse me of doing something which in reality I would be at home caring for my family I’m still trying to hold on that he does still care but it’s hard what do u think. I think that your boyfriend sadly wants to end this. Im with my boyfriend for 4 years now. And he freaks out over the simplist things. You have to look inside and find your self worth and self esteem first, and it has to be real, it can’t be fake. On evaluating your emotions, it involves identifying the feelings you're experiencing. I asked him repeatedly many times if he was seeing or talking to someone else, or if he lost interest in me. Maybe he feels more comfortable with you so he doesn’t “chase” you all the time? Right from the start of your conversation with your boyfriend, you should think about what the next steps will entail. Our sex life is great. If time goes by and he is not begging to come back, it’s not there anymore. I tend to get emotional and talk a lot during arguments whereas he pulls away so I don’t know if he doesn’t want to talk, or does but needs prompting. It’s only my opinion of course, but if he is like this, I wouldn’t wait for him. I’ve stopped asking where goes and what he’s doing. He doesn’t comfort me, and most of the time thinks I’m crying to throw a pity party but I’m just a sensitive person. Everyone deserves to be happy, no matter what, even you. Then he asked me out for drinks. Do guys who call for a break or whatever actually miss the other person? After Nov 12, (his brothers wedding), he started to ask me if i wanted to have lunch or dinner with him. I spend much of my time getting into the nitty-gritty and try to share my findings on this site with the hope of making life a little easier for women that are struggling in their relationships or love life. I’m very hurt and frustrated and just trying to understand. I think you made the right move by insisting on some time apart, even after he asked to see you and said he was sorry. try thinking what you would have advised your best friend to do in this situation. I know I’m being a hypocrite for saying so because I’m too wimpy to bring this up with MY boyfriend, but I know it’s the right thing to do. In some cases, you may never find out how and where the issue came from, and you'll have to be okay with not knowing. ( I’ve only known about the broad for 3). LDRs are difficult. He is afraid to break up with you, but that’s what he wants. Honestly at this point, I don’t know either. Josy, All this thinking ruins everything. What had changed in few days? I left an abusive husband 11 months ago, and I had no idea how bad things were until I was out. And I don’t want to lose him. He has agreeded to try and work at it and see if he can feel the same way again. There are so many reasons why your boyfriend’s emotional state may have left. He also obviously doesn’t want to hurt your feelings because he still loves you. But then when I ask him if he’s ok he’ll say that he doesn’t want to be with me, and that I’m pretty much forcing him to be w/me. I’m sure he misses you. I need your advise. what surprises me is that why is still telling me that we gonna fix things and still want have sex with me. (Not that I expect him to, but it’s just kind of out of the ordinary.) he dosent even Glace twice. He doesn’t have other girls he’s talking to but I don’t want to be strung along :(. As you can imagine, not only I’m living the horror of get trough a relationship because my boyfriend doesn’t love me…I’m living it knowing that it happened to me before, that my previous boyfriend fell out of love for me too. He says he is “taking time” for he and his son. His ego is not your concern, it’s something he has to deal with. If that’s hard. Ask him if he wishes for you to break up or not. So, he’s using his words and rude behavior to let you know he wants out. Hopefully, all of this makes sense. Do you still talk, share things, laugh together? Here’s the other part that I need to get out of my chest because it scares me… Why my girlfriend doesn’t love me anymore ? Also I think it’s worth noting I am 26 and he’s 22. It’s been only couple of days so I don’t want to ask him and annoy him but we are needing his family next weekend and I don’t want to go if he acts like this cos it makes me really upset. II cant take it anymore, I love him so much but he seems so distant from me lately. And my mother wanted him gone and I don’t know what she did but it’s been almost two years and everyday gets harder. First, I need to say, I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I think that you know what you have to do, and the sooner you do the sooner you’ll be able to get to better places in your life. Now a month after our first year he tells me he is severely depressed. . He stops putting in effort in the relationship. I did all kinds of things to keep him close. So if you really want things to change you’re going to have to use a powerful method because their love … Just give him the time he needs to get used to this idea and don’t pressure him. We had the moat amazing relationship you can imagine until we moved together, things started to be boring sometimes, the sexual attraction has decreased , interests started to change, he wanted to spend more time with friends, away from me, he started to love me way less than I do until he recently cheated on me , I am heartbroken and devastated. But, we have had sex. The worst thing is that he shows you that in a bad way. My boyfriend says he doesn’t know what he feels anymore and he tries to remind himself that he loves me and he feels all this is because of distance that he feels when he sees me all will be ok and he says he doesn’t want me to leave his life and he feels breaking up with me will be a decision he will always regret and he doesn’t want me to hate him… What should I do?? He doesn’t miss you When partners don’t see each other for a while, the first time their eyes meet when they reunite can pretty much go hand in hand with the first time you noticed each other and fell in love. Many before you have gone through what you're going through, and they've ended up finding people better than those they were with before. I don’t know what to do anymore, it’s difficult. At the beginning he was in a rush. You have to take the focus off of “us” and to “me”. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 years, we broke up before because I messed up with someone else but that was back in high school like 2 years ago. Making the decision isn't yours alone, but also his so find out from him what he wishes to do next concerning the relationship. Good luck! I hope you understand what I’m saying. That’s when I knew, and he told me in that very moment he was married, but if I would give him a chance to explain, maybe I’d understand. Right now just focus on what you do have rather than what you don’t have. I think that your instincts are probably right, and he is doing the “fade out” breakup with you (meaning he is slowly disappearing because he fears doing it face to face). Not for long anyway, and no matter how much love we have. But I know from seeing him in other situations such as work and driving etc he is very short tempered, work colleagues also say that he is hard work, snappy, argumentative etc and even confirmed he was like this before we met. Try to focus on yourself now, instead of him. He's human. That said, if you want to do this you shouldn’t just revel in sadness thinking, “she doesn’t love me anymore,” or, “I don’t have a chance with her anymore.” There’s a … I would like to know if you think this relationship has any chances to survive, and what should I do? And you have to tell you family about your problem. Try to focus on yourself now and be even too busy to meet him. I talked to him but he says its because he is busy and that he is not ignoring me. I know I should just be patient but, maybe he’s truly not interested in me anymore. I hope this helps and good luck, Not until you get your balance and good mood back (both of you). It is possible that his. He doesn’t know what he wants, he’s not sure if he will always feel this way, and finally today, to give myself so sort of closure, I told him that if he truly doesn’t love me anymore: say it. All of our furniture has been mutually purchased, the works. I went to live with my mom. well yea I’ve overdone my part in that it’s not enough plz help email me, My boyfriend claims to be busy eith his work. He hugged me after i asked for it and said if u dont want to move out then no need to. He called said I wasn’t his priority anymore, he didn’t care about me, and he didn’t even like me when he came to my house in November. But… I don't bring it up with him. He was so sweet and great for the first 2 months and now he’s not exactly that same person anymore. Maybe he didn’t felt the instant attraction he felt with others, but he found what is true love with me (and because of that, we have been so happy). He doesn’t care if I go out or hang out with other guys, but it has been that way from the very beginning. He claimed he waited for me while I thought he stylishly broke up with me and well I moved on. Can i also mention this is long distance because of schooling. Do yourself a favour dump him move on and stay away from guys in relationships. But I can sense that he already knows it, but dont want to break my heart. because he’s yours! After the wedding I was going to spend more time with him and go back to his family’s home. It’s true I’ve felt once in a while “tense” moments, but are a few, and well, we’ve been three years together, and the good moments are countless. Do you want to still live with someone who wants you out? Well I got sober. In all situations and scenarios of life, having a plan is one of the best things you can do, if you wish to be organized and well balanced. Words literally cannot express how much I love this man but I feel like I’m fighting a loosing battle. Well done. To be happy no matter how he acts and what he does, at least for a little while. I asked him to text me when he’a free this week and he told me he would. He is worried that I might not like them. He then responded I don’t want to break up that’s not what he mean. Let’s say he returns from work and you’re not there. I think that you should listen to that little inner voice telling you the truth this entire time, because this is the truth, and avoiding it won’t hep with anything. HI, this is my first time on a blog period so I guess that shows right there how desperate I am of getting back the man I know once loved and ( was inlove ) with me , and part of me and his behavior is telling me some of the love is still there . I am not able to understand him… What does he want. Even if he’s not holding your hand or sitting close to you on the couch, well, it may be one of many signals your husband doesn’t love you anymore. These are all (quite pathetic) attempts to tell you that he is no longer in love with you, without facing the “women drama” that all guys fear. Hi, I hope this helps, But stop thinking about him, take this time to think about you. Hello me and my boyfriend been together for 3 years now and we broke up a couple times because I need money and he couldn’t give it to me so I asked one of my old male friend but he was upset and broke up with me and now we are back together and a year later we moved into a apartment together, I kno that he still doesn’t trust me but he trying and just when I got him to trust me a bit better I did the same thing asked another man for money, now he is telling me when he is moving out when out lease is up and he don’t love me anymore yet he still takes me to family gatherings and spend time alone watching our favorite show and called me on the phone to have conversations and tell me good morning every morning. He his so tender with me, he hugs me and doesn’t want to let go, kissses me all the time, when he tells me he loves me I can feel it, so…I’m so confused. i did loved your article and i would like to ask a question. He has mentioned to me a couple of times that I’ve been acting differently which I’m not intentionally doing but I’m wondering if I’m starting to throw-off distance vibes myself. Every day, I receive hundreds of emails, all along the same lines: "I'm head over heels in love with this guy. I came home to see him on my break from school and we spent a whole week together and one night he told me he loved me. And that it was yesterday story and today is a different story. Than you’ll be able to know whether to stay with him through this, or not. As crazy and unthinkable as this might sound, I think It is one of the best points I'll ever offer in this article. I don’t think this means that he is losing feelings for you. This never works but instead always finds a way to bite us in the behind when we least expect it. Since the text message I’ve heard very little from him..mostly just him wanting to pick things up. I’m so scared of losing him. He showed me that I was causing the problem. 2 weeks ago he said we should break up because he doesn’t love me anymore. My bf and i had a really healthy relationship for 2.5 months. Communicating with him helps you to evaluate both your feelings and his, to know if it is possible to make things work once more, or its time to say goodbye. He’s different. Past few days he barely messages me. NYE I told him for the first time I loved him and he responded that he really liked me. It’s not true that he doesn’t care about your feelings. Try not hurt it by slamming in the wall over and over again. What’s wrong?’. So, find your freedom and. Ask family and friends for advice on what they think is the best step for you to take. One way or another, the key to why your boyfriend doesn’t love you anymore can be found in recent events you've gone through together. When we first met things couldn’t have been more amazing, and we fell in love and it was all more than I could have dreamt of. 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